Pride and Arrogance


Description:  A brief description of the dangers inherent in pride and arrogance and how to avoid it. Objectives: ·         To understand th...

Description: A brief description of the dangers inherent in pride and arrogance and how to avoid it.
·       To understand the meaning of the Arabic word kibr and how it relates to arrogance and conceit.
·       To discover simple ways to banish pride and arrogance from our lives. 
Arabic Terms:
·       Shaytan - sometimes spelled Shaitan or Shaytaan.   It is the word used in Islam and the Arabic language to denote the devil or Satan, the personification of evil.
·       Kibr - arrogance, pride, haughtiness, conceit or condescension.
·       Dunya - this world, as opposed to the world of the Hereafter.
·       Sahabah - the plural form of “Sahabi,” which translates to Companions.   A sahabi, as the word is commonly used today, is someone who saw Prophet Muhammad, believed in him and died as a Muslim.
·       Iblees – the proper name of Satan.
·       Risq – provision or sustenance.  All aspects of a person’s subsistence and livelihood fall under the definition of risq, including but not restricted to wealth and status.
·       Du’a - supplication, prayer, asking Allah for something.
Pride-and-Arrogance.jpgThe first entity to show pride and arrogance wasShaytan or as he is often called especially in the story of Adam, Iblees.  He was filled with pride and arrogance because he thought that he was better than Adam.  He felt superior. 
“…then We told the angels, ‘Prostrate to Adam’, and they prostrated, except Iblees, he refused to be of those who prostrate.  (Allah) said: ‘What prevented you (O Iblees) from prostrating when I commanded you?’Iblees said: ‘I am better than him (Adam), You created me from fire, and created him from clay’” (Quran 7:11-12)
That feeling of superiority is the root of all pride and arrogance.  I am better than you.  I make more money, my house is bigger, my intellect is greater, I have travelled more, my muscles are larger,  I cook more delicious meals; the list goes on.  One thing that all the things that we feel superior about have in common is that they are almost exclusively related to matters of the dunya.  Love of the dunya and all its trappings actually push us further away from Paradise.  Being, or appearing superior by dunya standards might just be more of a hindrance than a help.   It is our God consciousness that makes a difference; being superior in that respect is the only superiority that counts. 
You might make more money, but did you spend it to please Allah? You might make delicious meals but did you feed them to the poor? If you answer yes and you are proud of your accomplishments then this is not the pride and arrogance that translates to the Arabic word kibr (unhealthy and unnecessary pride and arrogance).  Islam is not against innovation and achievement, it rewards and encourages excellence and success, and thus motivation, desire for reward and even desire for recognition are not the sins.  The sin is in doing things with an incorrect intention.  While achievement for the sake of Allah and to serve humanity is the correct intention, doing something for self-gain or self-love is an incorrect intention.  Doing something to benefit your sense that the needs and desires of the world somehow revolve around you is kibr.
Kibr has the unintentional effect of making people dislike you, even fear you; it strips away respect.     In addition and of a far greater consequence is that it may deny you a place in Paradise.  Prophet Muhammad often counselled the sahabah about the importance of humility.  He said, “…Anyone who possesses half a mustard seed of kibr in his heart will not be granted admission to Paradise”.[1]
“It will be said (to them), ‘Enter the gates of Hell to abide herein, and (indeed) what an evil abode of the arrogant.’” (Quran 39:72)
Kibr puts our place in Paradise in jeopardy because it prevents us from acquiring the qualities of a believer.  A prideful person is not capable of wanting for others what he wants for himself.  Nor can he be humble or avoid envy.  An arrogant person refuses to accept advice and is often unable to restrain his anger or wrath.  A believer however, strives to remove these traits from his character.  He is always mindful of his behaviour.
Prophet Muhammad said that on the Day of Judgment Allah will not look at the person who drags his robe behind him out of pride.   His close confidante Abu Bakr then responded, “Oh Messenger of Allah, one side of my robe slacks down but I am very cautious about it (i.e.  I raise it).” Prophet Muhammad replied, “But you do not do that out of pride.”[2]  Once again we can see how prideful behaviour, kibr, stems from the intention.
The remedy for kibr, and the means by which one can keep well away from pride and arrogance, is as simple as remembering who you are; just a human being, with a mother and father like everybody else.  We all cry the same salty tears and bleed the same red blood.  And we all have the same purpose in life; to worship Allah.  We must also remind ourselves that all risq comes from Allah.  One person might earn more money but it is Allah that allowed him to acquire the skills to do so.  Another person might be more handsome or beautiful, but it is Allah that determined the quality of his or her genes.  When we receive something that we perceive as a special blessing from Allah we should remind ourselves to be thankful and grateful.  One step up from that would be to strive to use that blessing for the sake of Allah and to benefit humankind or this planet in some way.
Another remedy for kibr is to remember Allah; to keep Him in the forefront of our minds, if possible, at all times.  Remember that Allah sees all, even what is in the hearts of each person.  As Muslims we are blessed with a way or a system of remembering.  We pray five times a day, we use specific words of remembrance, and we are encouraged to make du’aand remember Allah often.  We use these methods to become close to Allah, to obey His commands and please Him.   In doing so we protect our own hearts from the sins of desire and greed and the sins involved in feeling superior to those around us.  This dunya is important because it is our ultimate test; not because it allows us to store up goods and chattels.  We want to feel good about ourselves because we have achieved God consciousness and not because we take our risq and deceive ourselves into thinking we created it ourselves.  Pride and arrogance should be banished from our lives and replaced with kindness and compassion.

[1] Saheeh Muslim
[2] Saheeh Al-Bukhari & Saheeh Muslim

The Mothers of the Believers (part 1 of 2): Who are the Mothers of the Believers?

Description: The definition of the term Mothers of the Believers and a brief biography of the first four wives of Prophet Muhammad.
·       To understand how and why we use the term Mothers of the Believers.
·       To know and understand something about the life and times of four of the wives of Prophet Muhammad.
Arabic Terms
·       Dunya - this world, as opposed to the world of the Hereafter.
·       Akhirah - the Hereafter, the life after death.
·       Sunnah - The word Sunnah has several meanings depending on the area of study however the meaning is generally accepted to be, whatever was reported that the Prophet said, did, or approved.
·       Sahabah - the plural form of “Sahabi,” which translates to Companions.   A sahabi, as the word is commonly used today, is someone who saw Prophet Muhammad, believed in him and died as a Muslim.
·       Hadith - (plural – ahadith) is a piece of information or a story.   In Islam it is a narrative record of the sayings and actions of Prophet Muhammad and his companions.
·       Mushaf – this is the book in which the Quran is contained.
MothersofBelievers_01.jpgWho are the Mothers of the Believers? You might have heard the expression Ummahat al-Mumineen.  This translates into English as the ‘Mothers of the Believers’ and this is a title that refers to the wives of Prophet Muhammad, may the mercy and blessings of Allah be upon him.  They were his wives in this dunya and will be his wives in the akhirah.  Each of these women played a significant role in the dissemination of Islam and their behavior in various situations teaches us many lessons applicable today.  They remind and teach us how to follow the Sunnah in our daily lives.  They excelled in both religious and social life and many received the glad tidings that their final destination would be Paradise.  They teach us integrity, loyalty, honesty and modesty and they showcase the unique status of women in Islam.
Allah refers to the wives of Prophet Muhammad in the Quran and He calls them the Mothers of the Believers.  He says, “The Prophet is closer to the believers than their ownselves, and his wives are their (believers’) mothers (as regards respect and marriage)…” (Quran 33:6)  By using this reference and title a special status was bestowed upon the wives of Prophet Muhammad.  They were accorded a high level of respect and after Prophet Muhammad’s death they were not allowed to marry again because legally they were considered to be the mothers of all Muslim men.

·      Khadijah bint[1] Khuwaylid (b.556 – d.619  CE)

“Mary, the daughter of Imran, was the best among the women (of the world of her time) and Khadijah is the best amongst the women (of this nation).”[2]  Khadijah was the first wife of Prophet Muhammad, whom she met as a widow of a wealthy merchant but had become prosperous in her own right.  She hired Muhammad as a business agent but soon came to see him as a suitable husband.  According to most sources she was about 40 and Muhammad about 25 when they married.  Khadijah bore him six children, including two sons who died in infancy.  She gave Muhammad support and encouragement when he received his first revelations and remained loyal to him when many prominent Meccans began to oppose him.  While she lived, Muhammad took no other wives.  He loved, missed and remembered Khadijah for the rest of his life.

·      Sawdah bint Zam’a ( b.unknown – d.674 CE)

After a marriage of twenty-five years the Prophet’s first wife, Khadijah passed away.  He was left alone to raise a small family and found that he could not devote enough time to calling the people to Islam so he decided to marry again.  He chose a widow named Sawdah bint Zam’a. 
Sawdah and her first husband were amongst the very early converts to Islam who immigrated to Abyssinia.  Her husband passed away in exile and she was left a poor widow with small children.  Prophet Muhammad sought approval for their marriage from Sawdah’s non-Muslim parents.  The parents agreed and then directed him to seek approval from Sawdah herself.  With this union, Sawdah’s and the Prophet’s households merged and the Prophet had more time to carry out the prophetic mission.  They were married for three years before Prophet took another wife.  Sawdah had the great honour of being an immigrant for the sake of Islam on two occasions, to Abyssinia and then to Medina.  She was the first of a number of widows the Prophet married.  Sawdah had a reputation for being a kind, charitable and jovial woman. 
At about the same time as his marriage to Sawdah Prophet Muhammad became betrothed to Aishah bint Abu Bakr.  Some years later Aishah joined their household as a young bride and Sawdah made her welcome; they formed a close bond that remained unbroken even after the Prophet’s death.

·      Aishah bint Abu Bakr (b.612 – d.678 CE)

Aishah was the daughter of Abu Bakr, one of Prophet Muhammad’s closest friends and supporters.  Her betrothal to him at a young age fortified that relationship.  Aishah was raised as a Muslim while most of the close sahabah were converts to Islam.  After marriage she and the Prophet became extremely close and many ahadith attest to this fact.  She was his beloved wife and an extremely intelligent scholar of Islam.  She is credited with narrating more than 2000 ahadith and became noted for her sharp intelligence, love of learning and impeccable judgment.  Aishah was one of only three of Prophet Muhammad’s wives who memorized the entire Quran.  Among her notable attainments were that she was the only wife that was with the Prophet when he received revelation and it was in Aishah’s arms that the Prophet died.  Aishah was widowed at the age of 18 or 19 years old and went on to teach and play a significant role in the dissemination of Islam for more than 40 years.

·      Hafsah bint Umar ibn Al-Khattab (b.605 – d.665 CE)

Prophet Muhammad’s fourth wife was Hafsah, the daughter of one of Prophet Muhammad’s closest confidantes, Umar ibn Al-Khattab.  Their marriage was an astute political alliance.   Hafsah had been married at a young age and participated in the migrations to both Abyssinia and Medina.  Sadly she was widowed when only eighteen years old but she then had the honour of marrying Prophet Muhammad and linking the Al-Khattab family with the Prophet’s family.  Hafsah and Aishah were the youngest of Prophet Muhammad’s wives and both had similar personalities; they were strong, determined women and for the most part seemed to get on well.  Hafsah was able to both read and write and like Aishah memorised the entire Quran.  She was both pious and intelligent and would spend hours pondering over the verses of the Quran.  It was Hafsah who had the great honour of being the custodian of the first Mushaf which came into her possession after the death of her father.  Hafsah was married to the Prophet for eight years, and after his death she lived for another thirty four years.

[1] Bint in Arabic means the daughter of. 
[2] Saheeh Al-Bukhari



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